SOMETHING ELSE
Drop the controller lady. You want things to change so badly, but everything you're doing is directly working against the change you would like to see happen in your relationship. Cause and effect. Stop analyzing his every little move, would you like to be cross examined every day of your life? After a while a person begins to feel accused, trapped, misunderstood, devalued, and run down. To top it off after making manipulating statements, moaning, complaining, whining and making him feel less than a human being, you proceed to speak ill of him to others (Dripping faucet). Maybe you forgot that you were created to be his helpmeet, not his taskmaster, supervisor, instructor, or advisor. You do have a part to play. It is important that you have right perspective. Love must be your aim. Begin to focus on something else, something that will actually work, something that will make both of your lives better. If you poured half the energy you spent on being critical of him and turned i